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Part-time Admin Assistant Position Available in Mumbai

Administration position currently available in Mumbai, India. The individual should be able to commit to 30 hours per month for 7 months (August 1, 2017, until March 31, 2018) in this role. This position is a great opportunity for someone to learn how organizations/advocates engage in work to end Female Genital Cutting. By working towards an FGC-free world, the aim is to recognize and emphasize the values of consent and a child’s/woman’s right over her own body and to enable a culture in which female sexuality is not feared or suppressed but embraced as normal.

If interested, please submit a cover letter and CV/resume to This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.. 

Please note that the candidate is expected to be able to work independently/remotely, and communicate regularly with Supervisors.

The program assistant should:

    • Be comfortable coordinating logistics for events, including the hiring of vendors, scouting event locations, assisting with writing MOUs/Contracts for Vendors, managing volunteers.
    • Be able to write relevant and insightful content for reporting requirements, including collating feedback for events, writing events descriptions for social media, newsletter, and grant reporting.
    • Be able to carry out basic financial management tasks, including reviewing the budget, managing bills, keeping track of expenses, submit and reconcile expenses reports.  
    • Be familiar with social media platforms such as Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, YouTube, WordPress, Google+, and basic social media management.
    • Be able to liaison with contractors, vendors, supervisors on a regular basis via email, phone, at the time of any on-site activity, and in-person regularly.
    • Other related tasks as deemed necessarily

Requirements

    • Be able to travel locally for events and other logistical meetings/tasks
    • Hardworking, driven, energetic, results-oriented, and independent  
    • Adhere to supervisor’s mission, vision, and values
    • Desire to learn about FGC, with a focus on engaging with the community in a sensitive manner
    • Proficiency in MS Office (MS Excel and MS PowerPoint, in particular)
    • Excellent time management skills and the ability to prioritize work
    • Attention to detail and problem-solving skills
    • Excellent written and verbal communication skills
    • Strong organizational skills with the ability to multi-task

 To view pdf of the Job Description, click Administrative Assistant Job Description.

Why I am a proud supporter of Sahiyo

By: Qudsiya Contractor

Age: 38
Country: India

As a Dawoodi Bohra woman, I am proud of Sahiyo and the work it is doing.

Because I am tired of people assuming that we as Muslim women are hapless victims that need to be rescued from their Islamic cultures steeped in orthodoxy and patriarchal traditions. Or that we are consenting participants in our own oppression and so self absorbed that we cannot look beyond our homes, families and ourselves.

It is because of Sahiyo that I can feel proud of my roots again and be aware that there are responsibilities that come with the privilege that we have gained as a community in society. And that change begins with oneself.

I am proud that Sahiyo is reminding us to think and act for ourselves and uphold the true spirit of Islam – reason, justice, fairness and benevolence.

It is high time that Dawoodi Bohra women speak out fearlessly against patriarchal censorship within the community.

Whenever Muslim women raise their voices they are accused of playing into orientalist projects or the Hindu right.

When will you stop suspecting our motives and listen to what we have to say?

I think Sahiyo is reminding us to put our liberal education and economic freedoms to the right use. To speak up so that mindsets of our brothers and sisters change and our coming generations make true progress.

Let us not be known as women who quietly suffered from the practice of khafz and looked the other way when our sisters and daughters suffered too. Let us not be known as women who unquestioningly perpetuated the practice on our young girls. Rather let us be known as women who questioned a harmful practice, putting an end to it to begin a new chapter for themselves and the community for generations to come.

This article was later published in Gujarati on October 26, 2017. Read the Gujarati version here.

 

 

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Why doctors need to speak out against female genital cutting in India

By Aarefa Johari

(A shorter version of this piece was published on the British Medical Journal’s blogs site on January 20, 2017. Read it here.) 

Two years ago I met Sara (name changed), a bright mother of two and a member of the Dawoodi Bohra community in Mumbai. From the time her daughter was a baby, Sara was determined she would not put her child through the ritual of khatna – female circumcision – that is considered mandatory for all Bohra girls. She had heard too many times that khatna is done to curb a girl’s sexual urges, and she was completely against the practice.

But when her daughter turned six, family pressure began to mount. Her mother-in-law was adamant that the child had to be cut at the age of seven, and after months of trying to resist, Sara finally caved in. She saw no choice but to have her daughter circumcised, so she decided to do everything in her power to ensure that khatna didn’t leave her little girl traumatised. No traditional, untrained “cutters” who use razor blades or knives to slice the clitoris; she wouldn’t even take her daughter to just any Bohra doctor authorised to perform khatna. Instead, Sara sought out a gynaecologist who agreed to completely sedate the child during the procedure.

Female circumcision, known around the world as Female Genital Mutilation/Cutting (FGM or FGC), is recognised as a human rights violation by the World Health Organisation. It involves cutting or altering parts of the female genitalia for non-medical reasons. There are various types of FGC practiced around the world, with varying degrees of severity. The kind that Bohras practice – cutting all or part of the clitoral hood – falls within WHO’s definition of Type 1 FGC. The practice is illegal in at least 40 countries, because there are no medical benefits to cutting any part of the female genitalia. In fact, even the mildest form of FGC can have harmful health consequences, including bleeding, swelling, painful urination, infection and reduced sexual sensitivity.

And yet, just two years ago, Sara’s seven-year-old daughter was cut in an operation theatre in a Mumbai hospital, by a licensed gynaecologist who administered general anaesthesia on the child so that she would have no memory of her clitoral hood being removed without consent.

If most doctors and medical associations in India are unaware of such incidents, I wouldn’t be surprised. Until a few years ago, almost no one had heard of Female Genital Cutting being practiced in India. Even international campaigns against FGM/C focused mainly on Africa, and only in the last few years has it been acknowledged that FGC is globally prevalent. But in India, Bohras have been secretly circumcising their daughters for centuries. Like so many seven-year-old Bohra girls, I was cut as a child too.

We are not a large community – barely two million in number – but those familiar with Dawoodi Bohras know us as a close-knit, well-educated, wealthy business community with a reputation for being progressive towards women. But the Bohras are the only group known to practice FGC in India so far. Other Indian Muslim sects don’t even consider the ritual Islamic, because there is no mention of it in the Quran. 

Bohra families, depending on who you speak to, give a variety of different reasons for practicing female khatna. “It is in the religion”, “it curbs sexual desire” and “it prevents pre-marital and extra-marital affairs” are the most common justifications; other reasons include hygiene and health, specifically the prevention of urinary tract infections and other diseases. Medically, of course, there is no proof of such claims.

More recently, some Bohras have begun rationalising khatna with the strangest argument: they claim it is the same as “clitoral unhooding”, a surgical procedure that a number of doctors in Western countries perform on adult women to enhance sexual pleasure. I first heard this argument from Sara, a few months after her daughter was cut. The child may have been sedated in the OT, but the mother was still deeply uncomfortable with her khatna. After the “surgery”, Sara spent hours online trying to understand what exactly had been cut and why. She then came across a website on clitoral unhooding. It claimed that by removing the hood covering the clitoral glans, the clitoris is more exposed and thus experiences more stimulation and pleasure. Sara shared the website with another Bohra doctor who performs khatna. “Yes, this is exactly what our khatna is. It is done to enhance sexual pleasure,” the doctor claimed.

This affirmation came as solace for Sara – her daughter was not harmed after all, and khatna turned out to have a “positive” intention. Her maternal relief was blind to the gaping holes in this “clitoral unhooding” theory, which were obvious on the website itself. As a surgical procedure, unhooding is recommended only for some sexually active women, if they have excess prepuce tissue that hinders orgasms by preventing the clitoral glans from protruding during arousal. Otherwise, the hood serves important function of protecting the clitoris from over-stimulation or abrasions.

Unfortunately, now that there is a growing movement against FGC within the community, many khatna supporters are trying to promote clitoral unhooding as a “scientific” justification for cutting all seven-year-old girls without consent. If this isn’t enough to mislead parents, we are also witnessing another disturbing trend: the medicalisation of khatna.

Medicalisation refers to the trend in which the cultural, non-medical practice of FGC is increasingly performed by a trained medical practitioner instead of an untrained traditional cutter. For several years now, Bohras in bigger cities like Mumbai have been getting their daughters cut by doctors (though not necessarily gynaecologists) in Bohra hospitals or clinics. They have come to realise that untrained cutters are not only unhygienic, but are also more likely to cut more than intended – particularly if the child is kicking or resisting the cut. The trend is now also spreading to smaller cities and towns. A few months ago, I met a Bohra woman in Jamnagar, Gujarat, who told me, “We’ve stopped going to cutters now because there were too many cases going wrong at their hands.”

Undoubtedly, a doctor will perform khatna in a safer manner than a neighbourhood aunty with a blade. But medicalisation also promotes the entirely false idea that FGC, even in its mildest form, is medically beneficial and acceptable. Not all Bohras are affected by khatna in a uniform manner, and many say they have faced no negative consequences. But in the past five years, with the silence around this tradition gradually breaking, we have heard innumerable stories of women who have been physically, psychologically and sexually scarred by their circumcisions in a variety of ways. Some women bled for days after their khatna and endured lasting pain; many have been unable to forget the mental trauma of being betrayed by their mothers, held down and abused; some have had to seek therapy to be able to get intimate with their partners and many claim they don’t feel easily aroused by clitoral stimulation. 

What is a doctor’s responsibility, then, in the face of such a ritual? Two of the most basic pillars of medical ethics are to do no harm and to act in the best interests of a patient. Female circumcision has no health benefits and can potentially harm girls and women. For a patient, it serves no scientific or medical interest to have any part of the clitoris removed. In fact, since khatna is not a medical procedure at all, girls being brought to get cut can hardly be called patients. Besides, a seven-year-old is not capable of giving informed consent to a procedure that permanently alters one of her most vital sexual organs.

Some doctors I know are already discouraging parents from getting their daughters circumcised. But others carry out khatna on little girls even if they are aware that it has no medical standing. “There is no point asking whether it [khatna] is right or wrong – we have to do it anyway,” said one Bohra gynaecologist I spoke to a few years ago. If a doctor herself adopts this perspective, what happens to medical ethics and scientific temper?

Now that the practice of FGC among Bohras is no longer a secret, perhaps it is time for medical bodies and doctors’ associations to take an official stand on the subject. There are already scores of activists working to end khatna by spreading awareness within the community. In a few years, India might even have a law against the practice. But strong medical opinion is just as important. Because in a few years, Sara’s second daughter will turn seven. And in the name of “scientific” clitoral unhooding, she intends to get this child circumcised too. 

If the medical fraternity publicly and vocally condemns this practice, this girl – and many more – could be saved from the blade. 

Khatna: A mother’s pain and a son's search for retribution

By: Anonymous

Age: 31
Country: United States

My mother is a woman of faith. The innate cultism of the Bohra community has never dissuaded her from being a part of it, attending every function on the bright, colorful Hijri calendar. For decades, that bright calendar has served as a façade to hide inexcusable darkness. I’ve been distant from this community for some time. I’ve often voiced some of the blatant ironies of our sect, particularly with the Hijri calendar. Lailutal Qadr, the holiest night in Ramadan, is now a minor blip on it, largely overshadowed by the birthday of his holiness, Mufaddal Saifuddin, which falls on the same day. She does not take my criticisms lightly and always tells me to have an open mind. She pleads with me to forget the cultism for a minute and focus on the community, the spirituality, and the power of prayer. She’s always been pious to a fault, ignoring the many uncomfortable truths of a community that has so many.  

It made it shocking a couple months ago when she expressed her anger and hostility towards Khatna. Sahiyo has cast a large spotlight on this tribal and destructive practice. Growing up in a household of all boys and in a community that’s kept Khatna so hidden, I only learned of the practice through Sahiyo and the articles by so many women who have had the courage to discuss its indignities and the havoc it has caused in their lives.

But it hit home when my mom told me about her own experiences. This deeply religious woman, who has been an advocate for the Bohra community her entire life and encouraged her children to look past certain practices, was not willing to overlook this one. She told my brother and me that if she had a daughter she would never have them undergo this procedure. She told us in excruciating detail about her own experience at the tender age of seven, when she was taken to a dark basement at a neighbor’s home in India. The pain, anger, and sexual frustrations she has suffered since then were self-evident from the tears building up in her eyes. I couldn’t hold back the tears in my own. The anger I felt when reading the stories of other women, rose to a fever pitch when I realized how much it hurt the woman that brought me into this world. A woman I have loved my entire life. She forgave this community and encouraged me to be a part of it. Because, for her generation, the community is everything and the thought of becoming an outcast – that fear of being shunned from family and friends – makes you swallow your pain, frustration, and anger and accept the status quo.

No more.

The only beauty in the ugly underbelly surrounding Khatna, is the powerful options we have to confront it and other injustices of the Bohra community. For the first time in thirty years the powers that be are scared to the core. And it’s not just the fear of legal repercussions they will inevitably face in facilitating and encouraging genital mutilation. Their real fear lies in losing the plethora of financial benefits they have always valued – the envelopes filled with bundles of cash, the millions of dollars in Ziyafats, the houses, the cars, and financial control over thousands of small Bohri businesses. The more these injustices are pointed out, the more Bohris – specifically millennials – will go elsewhere for spiritual enlightenment. And with that financial loss, they can never sustain the lavish lifestyle they’ve grown so accustomed to.

But actions always speak louder than words. The first step, and it is imperative, is to find a special woman in your life affected by this practice. Sit down with that woman, talk to her, and understand what she’s been through. It will fill you with the same rage it filled me.

And that’s what we need – a whole lot of rage. We need people in our generation to be angry and to boycott this community unless it returns to serve the spiritual needs of the people it’s tasked with serving. That’s what a religious community can and should be.

I will never forget the pain I saw in my mother’s eyes the night she told me about her experience with Khatna. I will carry it with me moving forward and fight to make sure this practice ends. If we all do our part, it will stop, along with the other immoral practices of a community that has so many. All millennials should exercise the same vengeance. They can’t threaten to destroy our lives like they did to our parents. We hold all the cards here. We shouldn’t be afraid to play our collective strong hand.

 

This article was published in Gujarati on November 28, 2017. You can find the Gujarati version here.

 

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How I learned that FGM happens in India

By: Anonymous journalist whose friend underwent FGM

Age: 26
Country: India

“It was supposed to stop me from me doing ‘those things’. I’m not sure if it served the purpose,” M told me.

I would have known about this practice much later if I hadn’t met someone who underwent it.

As we were getting to know each other, one day M drew my attention to the fact that she was different from other girls. That was when I heard the term female genital mutilation for the first time.

“You should read about genital mutilation”, she said.

Later that night, I learned about this horrible practice meant to oppress women. I had so many unanswered questions for her.

~ How did she become a part of this?

~ Explaining what happened to you to all your companions must be tiring…

~ Was everyone as sensitive as me when she told them about what had happened to her?

~ Why does a well-educated family still practice it?

I called her. That’s when I heard her story.

She told me that men don’t take part in ‘matters of female’. She was only six or seven when her maternal grandmother took her for khatna. She thought they were going for afternoon prayers until the point when an old lady laid her on a table and pulled her pants away. But the real terror struck when her legs were pulled apart. All reasoning was silenced just like her protest and this memory was repressed. What does a child know about right or wrong? If the elders do it, it must be for good. Right?

“Where was your mother when all of this was happening, did she even know?” I asked her.

M said, “I don’t know. She hadn’t joined me when it was done to me. I can’t imagine her watching me go through something like that.”

Her mother probably didn’t want to inflict the pain on her, and at the same time, her mother could see there was flawed reasoning behind the practice. Her mother accepted that the tradition had to continue in silence.

Life went on as usual until M turned twenty. She was no longer a little girl. After she had sex for the first time, the repressed memories came up. She could no longer hide. She wondered, are my genitals different, am I different because of it?

M often felt she was not normal and even felt she was asexual.  It was not just the altering of her genitals that made her feel different, but the lack of understanding of her body as well.  

“Remember I would often wonder if I was asexual because of it? Well, those doubts are gone. I finally know I have the urge to have sex like anyone else,” M said to me to explain the doubts she had around her ability to orgasm.

She still remembers the first time her family openly talked about khatna. M was in college and an aunt was visiting from abroad. She heard her aunt speaking to her parents about the “mindless practice of female circumcision.” She joined the conversation, speaking publicly for the first time about her anger for having undergone it. But the conversation ended with her parents saying the following words “Daughter, you will understand later. It has to be done so that the girl doesn’t go out of hand.”

Like within most families in India, parents and their children do not speak about sexuality. She couldn’t let her family know she was sexually active. I sense that because parents see pre-marital sex as wrong, this idea has a very big role in the continuation of the practice. Therefore, while addressing FGM we can’t separate it from the need for sex education. Sex education must also include sensitizing the emotional and psychological aspects of sex as well.

“How can we bring an end to all this?” I asked her the last time we spoke.

“One thing is for certain,” M said. “I am not making my daughter go through this.”

Her decision is significant. Pledging not to continue it on the next generation is important, particularly when perhaps twenty years ago, many women never made this pledge.

“Will you ever talk publicly about it?” I asked her.

“I don’t know”, she said, “It’s not like I’m not trying to make any difference. I just feel I’m not ready to be public and deal with the attention I would get afterwards.”

Her answer made me realize that the people who are affected by the reckless act are not the only anchors of social change. We needed to focus equally on institutions that allowed such harmful traditions to continue.

Speaking to the religious heads about FGM is important. The most crucial aspect of reforming this age-old practice is educating people. Simply banning it by law is not the solution because this may lead some families to carry out khatna in secret, on their own.

She said, “Today’s young priests who get more educated think like us. I’m sure if they are encouraged to bring about changes, it will have a larger impact on the community.”

As a journalist, I’m sharing the story of my friend, because I believe the media’s role is critical in achieving social justice, and helping to get those larger institutions to think about creating change.

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